1. If at all possible, apologize in person. You wont want to deliver your apology in the most personal way possible and you want your friend to be able to see your facial expressions. Avoid apologizing by phone or email if at all possible.
2. Apologize as soon as you can after the argument. Dont allow too much time for further anger to build up between you and your friend.
3. Practice what you plan to say in your apology until youre satisfied with it. You may only get one chance to say what you have to say. Make sure your apology is well thought out and clearly stated.
4. Be willing to accept the blame. Dont deliver a partial apology, it only comes off as insincere. If youre going to apologize, make sure its a complete heartfelt apology, not an insincere, partial one. Acknowledge your role in the argument.
5. Make eye contact when you deliver your apology. Dont look down out the ground, cross your arms or give other signs of being defensive or insincere. Let your friend know you mean it.
6. Be willing to listen to your friend after you deliver your apology. If your friend wants to discuss the issue further, listen without forming a judgment or escalating the argument any further. Your friend may feel better after she voices her feelings.
7. Have a plan for after youve delivered your apology. You might want to take your friend out for a cup of coffee so you can relax and renew your friendship.
8. Remember the purpose of apologizing is not to win the argument, its to reestablish your friendship. Resist the urge to make any final excuses or justifications to support your side of the argument.
9. If your friend doesnt accept your apology right away, give her some time and space. Sometimes it takes a little time for someone to come to terms with an apology. Dont rush her.
Hopefully, these tips will help you when you next need to know how to apologize to a friend! Remember, no argument is more important than friendship. Friends are truly lifes greatest treasures!
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